Self-Discovery Doesn’t Have To Be So Complicated
If you haven’t noticed, we have some themes for our Blog posts. They surround
the concept of DICE-T, which is something we created for Millennials, but is
really applicable to anyone.
DICE-T – Discover, Inspire, Coach, Empower, Transition. It’s something most
of us do in our lifetimes – especially if we are moving from one chapter to
another; college to the real world, one job to a new one, moving from one city to a
different place, committing to a relationship, becoming a parent, transitioning to
a new start in our lives – whatever it might be. Well, we think one of the best
ways to start any new transition is to Discover and Reflect. This can be mostly
about Self-Discovery, and it could be discovering other things. But let’s talk briefly about how to go about Self-Discovery.
I would suggest that one of the best ways to Discover something about one’s self
is to ask! Get feedback. Today, a lot of organizations and companies use formal
360 feedback tools. Feedback givers are chosen, surveys are distributed, data is
collected and assimilated, trends / patterns are analyzed, anonymity is assured.
Whew! That can be complicated, costly and time-consuming.
Well, first, I will suggest that you don’t need a formal feedback mechanism. Just
ask. Ask your people. I started doing this a few years ago, and I had a discovery. I
like to think I’m pretty self-aware, but I got some feedback that surprised me. It
was from my daughter. It was kind of a spontaneous conversation – I asked how I
could be a better person / parent. And honestly, I thought I would know
everything she would share. But she surprised me with something. She told me
“you’re too hard on yourself”. So this may not seem like a big deal – and at first
(besides being surprised by it) I was kind of defensive of it. I thought – well, sure
– being hard on oneself will only make us a better person, right? Well, as I
thought further about it – I had to realize I am a role model to my daughters – to
my students, and probably to others. And would I want them to be too hard on
The point here is not about my interpretation of this feedback – it’s about the
discovery. I asked and received good, honest, relevant feedback. It was sincere, it
was immediate and it has continued to influence me.
So in the spirit of DICE-T – go discover! You will likely be seeing your people this
season. Take the time to have a sincere, open, safe conversation. And ask them
for feedback. Some starter questions:
How am I doing?
How could I be better?
And then what should you do with this? Just Listen, Reflect, Accept.